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Making Friends with your Bottom-Up Brain
When we receive messages of safety through these lower, older regions of the brain, it allows for a settling of the system, an orientation of openness and the ability to be more receptive, curious, and creative. This doesn’t happen through thinking to ourselves “I am safe,” but through felt cues of safety interpreted through the body. Therefore, if we want to effectively connect to the functions of the cortex, we need to work from the bottom-up. In brief: if my physical and survival needs aren’t met, and I don’t feel a sense of relational safety and belonging, my access to learning, reflection, and slower, more responsive types of thinking are limited.
The Compassion of Neurobiology
As a leader, educator, parent, partner, or anyone who interacts with other humans on a regular basis (i.e., all of us), an understanding of the ways that our nervous systems are shaped by stress, trauma, and relationships and how they directly influence our behaviors can help us shift from a stance of judgment and blame to one of compassion and curiosity. When we move from interpreting unskillful behaviors as character flaws to seeing them as symptoms of dysregulation and unmet needs, the way we interact with others (and ourselves!) can change.